to be clear, i'm not against swearing in all circumstances. in some relationships, in some circumstances, it's perfectly fine, but it's an implicitly negotiat

to be clear, i'm not against swearing in all circumstances. in some relationships, in some circumstances, it's perfectly fine, but it's an implicitly negotiated rule that both parties understand. i'm thinking, eg, of most male friendships that go back a long way, but i could also see it between two sales guys who've been in the trenches together, etc. the point is it's taken in a certain spirit, and you can't force people who don't know you well, or don't share that sensibility, to partake of that spirit. even if you personally prefer that style, it's hard to argue that it's effective from a practical perspective. for the large majority of people, the first example is far more likely to actually get you your desired result than 2nd.