I upvoted you and would like to add a reply to emphasize how correct I think this is. honest open criticism != rude dick It takes a little more work, because

I upvoted you and would like to add a reply to emphasize how correct I think this is. honest open criticism != rude dick It takes a little more work, because you have to think carefully about your words and calm down, but that action itself makes a) the criticism more useful b) creates a frame where the criticism is more likely to be acted on and leave no resentment Also, I believe that apologizing is something we should do more often. As in "I don't apologize for my behavior" is not as good a path as "I'm sorry I blew up, but I did have a point".