"Not all feminists are like that" is an intellectually lazy argument. Of course not all feminists agree. That doesn't matter in the slightest when I have femini

"Not all feminists are like that" is an intellectually lazy argument. Of course not all feminists agree. That doesn't matter in the slightest when I have feminists (who I count as friends, no less) telling me that I have no right to have an opinion on gender equality because I'm a white middle class male. "Privilege" and "Patriarchy" is shaming language used by even the meekist feminist (and again, said by people who actually like me) to make me feel bad for being born the way I am - a white male who wants to make a comfortable living. Anytime I make a comment about this topic, the response I get is what I imagine women used to get in Victorian era england; "Aww, that's sweet, now sit down, shut up and let the women talk." I don't oppress women. Women oppress me. And pointing that out makes me the asshole.