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More of an insensitive libertine than a sexist. I cannot control what other people say, think or do. I can only control how I react to those situations. This ma
by anaptdemise 13y ago
More of an insensitive libertine than a sexist. I cannot control what other people say, think or do. I can only control how I react to those situations. This makes it crucial to self sensor being offended more than being offensive. I agree with a lot of what this thread is about, but also am aware that overcompensation is also present. Being offended to a point as to intend to change someones behavior is a form of exerting moral authority. It is rare that this is not itself a form of discrimination. "I have zero tolerance for intolerant people."
I agree there is a place and time for everything. However, true friends are rarely made in polite company. I prefer to work with friends.
- kaybe 13y agoWell, if the comments are not different for men and women - as in, you're not actually trying to say something not in the words (winkwink) and it's appropriate for the level of relation, and if you respect if someone tells you some comment was not so great, you should be fine with most woman of the technical inclination, I'd say. It's a subtle thing, really. One person can make remarks about women and shoes and it's funny because we know that's not his real opinion, another does it and it's offensive because he thinks it's true. It really is about what your real opinions and intentions are.
- jack-r-abbit 13y agoIt really is about what your real opinions and intentions are. Perhaps step one should be "find out their real opinion and intention". But too often people just go straight to "thermo-nuclear melt down".