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Do you understand that unsolicited comments on someone's appearance are not ok?

• lmm 13y ago
  They're not? Why not? Seriously; unsolicited negative comments on pretty much any aspect are not ok. Sexually charged comments are not ok in most environments. But I don't want to live in a world where complimenting someone on their appearance is a bad thing.
  • larrys 13y ago
    "They're not? Why not?" Add: Agree. I'm truly baffled by the parent comment. People say things about appearance all the time. And I can't think of many cases where a comment (positive) about how someone appears (if said in the proper tone of voice [1]) is not appropriate. And even in the case of a negative comment you'd have to take the relationship of the parties into account (agreeing that that's a much broader situation and safer to not say anything). [1] Of course I can think of many other exceptions (person dying in the hospital and you say "you look great") but the parent comment doesn't appear to be suggesting fringe cases.
  • acjohnson55 13y ago
    It's not necessarily a bad thing, but you should consider that it's often unwelcome. There are things people think of as compliments to me that aren't things I actually want to hear, particularly from people I don't know.
• waqf 13y ago
  There are legitimate criticisms you could make of the comment in question, but "I was curious what you looked like" is assuredly not a comment on someone's appearance.
  • larrys 13y ago
    "legitimate criticisms you could make of the comment in question" What are they? I'm curious about what is prompting downvotes other than the obvious sorta somewhat non-pc patina.