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> Happily married and all of that but men are visual What does that even mean?

larrys 13y ago
It's like saying "I just bought a car and I"m happy with it but I still like to look at other cars at the car show or in the showroom because it makes me feel good".
- zmj 13y ago
  Do you understand that unsolicited comments on someone's appearance are not ok?
  - lmm 13y ago
    They're not? Why not? Seriously; unsolicited negative comments on pretty much any aspect are not ok. Sexually charged comments are not ok in most environments. But I don't want to live in a world where complimenting someone on their appearance is a bad thing.
    - larrys 13y ago
      "They're not? Why not?" Add: Agree. I'm truly baffled by the parent comment. People say things about appearance all the time. And I can't think of many cases where a comment (positive) about how someone appears (if said in the proper tone of voice [1]) is not appropriate. And even in the case of a negative comment you'd have to take the relationship of the parties into account (agreeing that that's a much broader situation and safer to not say anything). [1] Of course I can think of many other exceptions (person dying in the hospital and you say "you look great") but the parent comment doesn't appear to be suggesting fringe cases.
    - acjohnson55 13y ago
      It's not necessarily a bad thing, but you should consider that it's often unwelcome. There are things people think of as compliments to me that aren't things I actually want to hear, particularly from people I don't know.
  - waqf 13y ago
    There are legitimate criticisms you could make of the comment in question, but "I was curious what you looked like" is assuredly not a comment on someone's appearance.
    - larrys 13y ago
      "legitimate criticisms you could make of the comment in question" What are they? I'm curious about what is prompting downvotes other than the obvious sorta somewhat non-pc patina.
- ukapu 13y ago
  This may come as a shock to you, but women are not cars.
  - ebfe 13y ago
    Of course not. Acknowledging that two things are the same in some ways does not imply that the two things are the same in all ways. Don't be intentionally obtuse.
    - brimtown 13y ago
      His quote is damn near the definition of "objectification".
      - ebfe 13y ago
        Which is an utterly meaningless term nowadays. I'd love to hear you try to define it in a way that wouldn't classify every human interaction as objectifying.
- cenhyperion 13y ago
  and more casual sexism!

It's like saying "I just bought a car and I"m happy with it but I still like to look at other cars at the car show or in the showroom because it makes me feel good".

zmj 13y ago
Do you understand that unsolicited comments on someone's appearance are not ok?
- lmm 13y ago
  They're not? Why not? Seriously; unsolicited negative comments on pretty much any aspect are not ok. Sexually charged comments are not ok in most environments. But I don't want to live in a world where complimenting someone on their appearance is a bad thing.
  - larrys 13y ago
    "They're not? Why not?" Add: Agree. I'm truly baffled by the parent comment. People say things about appearance all the time. And I can't think of many cases where a comment (positive) about how someone appears (if said in the proper tone of voice [1]) is not appropriate. And even in the case of a negative comment you'd have to take the relationship of the parties into account (agreeing that that's a much broader situation and safer to not say anything). [1] Of course I can think of many other exceptions (person dying in the hospital and you say "you look great") but the parent comment doesn't appear to be suggesting fringe cases.
  - acjohnson55 13y ago
    It's not necessarily a bad thing, but you should consider that it's often unwelcome. There are things people think of as compliments to me that aren't things I actually want to hear, particularly from people I don't know.
- waqf 13y ago
  There are legitimate criticisms you could make of the comment in question, but "I was curious what you looked like" is assuredly not a comment on someone's appearance.
  - larrys 13y ago
    "legitimate criticisms you could make of the comment in question" What are they? I'm curious about what is prompting downvotes other than the obvious sorta somewhat non-pc patina.
ukapu 13y ago
This may come as a shock to you, but women are not cars.
- ebfe 13y ago
  Of course not. Acknowledging that two things are the same in some ways does not imply that the two things are the same in all ways. Don't be intentionally obtuse.
  - brimtown 13y ago
    His quote is damn near the definition of "objectification".
    - ebfe 13y ago
      Which is an utterly meaningless term nowadays. I'd love to hear you try to define it in a way that wouldn't classify every human interaction as objectifying.
cenhyperion 13y ago
and more casual sexism!