I think it's a combination of signaling superiority with body language, being friendly, greeting people with care and confidence, developing personal relationsh

I think it's a combination of signaling superiority with body language, being friendly, greeting people with care and confidence, developing personal relationships, being proactive in meetings and in general, and most importantly just asking for what you want. There was a time when I tried to conform or figure out what other people wanted, but these days I approach people with a clear idea of what I think should be done and say something like: "this is what I'm interested in", with the subtext that I'll just leave if I don't get to do that. It's a kind of "take it or leave it" attitude.