My experience has been that if you're obsessed with work (or play), then find a relationship where the other is obsessed with work (or play). Hopefully, simila

My experience has been that if you're obsessed with work (or play), then find a relationship where the other is obsessed with work (or play). Hopefully, similar work. (So you can understand what each other are talking about.) Outside of that, most non-obsessed people expect you to give them a healthy chunk of your time and attention. If you're unable, or unwilling to do that, there is little else you can do to ensure that both of you will have what you desire as a healthy relationship. One of the two is going to get short-changed.