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It seems incredibly broken from the outside to have parents "play the game" (not that it's a fun game in any way), but compare it to other countries where kids
by hrktb 13y ago
It seems incredibly broken from the outside to have parents "play the game" (not that it's a fun game in any way), but compare it to other countries where kids in a dead end will:
- kill themself or hurt themself repeatedly (the standard outcome)
- do drugs
- rampage at every occasion (british chavs ?)
- kill others (eventually their bullies when they are bullied)
- go to prison for a reason or another
If the parents knew what to do or could do it they would try. Sometimes the parents themself are so broken mentally from the weight of the situation that they are in. I think you are spot on about the parents not engaging enough with their chldren until they reach this points. The guilt about their failure as parents is also a factor in letting the kid go hikikomori instead of forcing him into anther way.
- ekianjo 13y agoI don't know, it seems to me that in the Western world, parents try to talk to their kids, or try to go counselling or something. It does not always work but they are not usually passive about it. In Japan there is virtually no dialog - probably because there is so much respect for the "private sphere" of the individual. That's also why in Japan you never have "deep" discussions with anyone. All the stuff you talk with people is very, very superficial. Or maybe its just my impression.