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The account that the blog conveyed seems overly emotional to me. Balance of probabilities, I suspect the incident was not abusive. If someone came to me and r

by Daviey 13y ago

The account that the blog conveyed seems overly emotional to me. Balance of probabilities, I suspect the incident was not abusive. If someone came to me and raised a child protection or abuse issue, i'd likely not 'appreciate it' and give them some scathing pointers on my views. Seriously, what do you expect to happen? 'Some stranger thinks I am being a bad parent.. he must know much more than me, i'll change to comply to his belief.' You have escalated this to a different level "brutal behaviour" is dramatising it, twisting the original point (and even escalating the blog post) to a different proportion. Naturally, if there was "brutal behaviour" - then this would be a different incident. At no point did I suggest we discount statistics or research. However, I do believe people are generally good and have their children's best interest at heart (I am sure stats support that). Busybody judgements are rarely helpful IMO, if anything - they make it so parents find it harder to discipline their children in public through fear of misinterpretations from people like you, meaning that we have a generation that do not have respect and discipline.

PavlovsCat 13y ago
> "brutal behaviour" is dramatising it, “If you so much as make a sound or come off of that wall again, I promise you’re going to get it when we get home." Call that whatever the fuck you want.. if you don't see anything wrong with that, you might be the weakest link. > Busybody judgements are rarely helpful The blog author at least was present in the situation they're talking about. That's a hell of a lot more than anything you're arguing from, that "people in general" are nice to their kids and whatnot. > they make it so parents find it harder to discipline their children in public through fear of misinterpretations from people like you People like me? And why should someone else not discipline you in public? What kind of special ownership do you think you have over your kids? None other than correcting their mistakes, and protecting them. Anybody can and should do that to anybody, no? > we have a generation that do not have respect and discipline. Right. Says the generation too busy stuffing their faces and shining boots to even know themselves, much less their children. You don't teach respect by punishment, but by example. And authority is not automatically justified either, you get that by actually having a clue; punishment doesn't help here at all. It just helps to raise more people with issues who then seek to impart them on others. Well, at least I now know why this rubbed you the wrong way. Believe it or not, I've never seen anyone getting a bad look or given anyone one for simply being firm with their child. There is a difference. We say stop being dicks, others respond "you're asking us to be rollovers". It's bullshit, plain and simple.

by Daviey 13y ago

PavlovsCat 13y ago

> "brutal behaviour" is dramatising it, “If you so much as make a sound or come off of that wall again, I promise you’re going to get it when we get home." Call that whatever the fuck you want.. if you don't see anything wrong with that, you might be the weakest link. > Busybody judgements are rarely helpful The blog author at least was present in the situation they're talking about. That's a hell of a lot more than anything you're arguing from, that "people in general" are nice to their kids and whatnot. > they make it so parents find it harder to discipline their children in public through fear of misinterpretations from people like you People like me? And why should someone else not discipline you in public? What kind of special ownership do you think you have over your kids? None other than correcting their mistakes, and protecting them. Anybody can and should do that to anybody, no? > we have a generation that do not have respect and discipline. Right. Says the generation too busy stuffing their faces and shining boots to even know themselves, much less their children. You don't teach respect by punishment, but by example. And authority is not automatically justified either, you get that by actually having a clue; punishment doesn't help here at all. It just helps to raise more people with issues who then seek to impart them on others. Well, at least I now know why this rubbed you the wrong way. Believe it or not, I've never seen anyone getting a bad look or given anyone one for simply being firm with their child. There is a difference. We say stop being dicks, others respond "you're asking us to be rollovers". It's bullshit, plain and simple.