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> I believe a part of me feels like a coward for not saying something to the man in front of me at Costco. I often wonder about this... Let's assume you have u
by PavlovsCat 13y ago
> I believe a part of me feels like a coward for not saying something to the man in front of me at Costco.
I often wonder about this... Let's assume you have unlimited confidence etc.: even then, what would be a good way to react in such a situation that doesn't just lead to it being taken out on the kid later? It just seems hard as a random stranger to say anything that would be actually heard.
On the other hand, provided the kid gets abused either way; wouldn't it still be better for them to see that not all adults think that's okay? Even if they get another beating for it? I never was treated this way, and I'd like to think I would still want others to stand up for me, even if they can't actually help -- but I don't know, and it's really tricky to meddle with something as sad as this based on my own biases.
Is there any "professional advice" on this?
- yungchin 13y agoThis seems like thoughtful advice to me: http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/report-child-abuse/step-1-evaluate-situations.html http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/repo... - they suggest that while you should step in, you shouldn't so much confront the parent, but rather be empathetic. That way there's nothing to take out on the kid later, hopefully.
- PavlovsCat 13y agoThank you. It kind of confirms what I was thinking, that parents who abuse kids ultimately need a hug themselves, and that just attacking them for it can't be the solution... if only seeing things like this tends to make my blood boil so fast. This will take conscious effort and practice.