While I think the OP does add some useful nuance to an often oversimplified topic, I would say that I am happy for him that he has had it so easy. Happy becaus

While I think the OP does add some useful nuance to an often oversimplified topic, I would say that I am happy for him that he has had it so easy. Happy because he has apparently never known anyone whose is very smart and very hardworking, but whose success and happiness in some novel area has been actively sabotaged by parents who use love as a weapon with never an iota of remorse. To have such a person dear to your heart is to peer into Mordor. And, yes, encouraging such a person to chuck their parents' love into Mount Doom may be the best course.