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> "but rather go for short term gratification than for creating their own freedom." How come starting a family is a "short" term gratification?

mfieldhouse 13y ago
I've often seen the choice of having kids or getting married being used as a 'quick fix'. Usually for a failing relationship, insecurities or poor financial choices (benefits++). It's not always, but it can be.
- Tyrannosaurs 13y ago
  Anyone having children to patch up a dodgy relationship is an idiot. "Things aren't great between us are they?" "No, what should we do?" "I know let's try something that will leave us exhausted, financially worse off and with no time to ourselves, that will DEFINITELY help."
wellboy 13y ago
That's not what he's comparing himself to, he's not comparing himself to people with sick parents, disabilities or a family to take care of. He's comparing himself to young and educated indulging the life of well-earning bachelors buying shit they don't need. If one has started a family and doesn't have one's own successful business yet, it's very likely to be forever stuck in the "job-limbo", because one does have responsibilities. Family is the most important thing. Speaking for myself, I just couldn't start a family without having my own successful startup before, because otherwise I could never give myself and my children the freedom that I consider to be necessary to make a life worth living.
- hyphyphyph 13y ago
  Good luck homy.
- pmelendez 13y ago
  >"That's not what he's comparing himself to, he's not comparing himself to people with sick parents, disabilities or a family to take care of. He's comparing himself to young and educated indulging the life of well-earning bachelors buying shit they don't need." I am not sure about that, he explicitly said that he is not interested in starting a family. From the article: "I could have saved a bit less, and developed a taste for expensive shirts or exotic foreign holidays. Or I could have started a family. But I’m not interested in any of those things"
Tyrannosaurs 13y ago
I can testify that unless you get off on sleep deprivation and clearing up other people's bodily waste there's little short term gratification in a family.
hyphyphyph 13y ago
OMG intercourse and parental approval all in one???

mfieldhouse 13y ago

I've often seen the choice of having kids or getting married being used as a 'quick fix'. Usually for a failing relationship, insecurities or poor financial choices (benefits++). It's not always, but it can be.

Tyrannosaurs 13y ago
Anyone having children to patch up a dodgy relationship is an idiot. "Things aren't great between us are they?" "No, what should we do?" "I know let's try something that will leave us exhausted, financially worse off and with no time to ourselves, that will DEFINITELY help."

wellboy 13y ago

That's not what he's comparing himself to, he's not comparing himself to people with sick parents, disabilities or a family to take care of. He's comparing himself to young and educated indulging the life of well-earning bachelors buying shit they don't need. If one has started a family and doesn't have one's own successful business yet, it's very likely to be forever stuck in the "job-limbo", because one does have responsibilities. Family is the most important thing. Speaking for myself, I just couldn't start a family without having my own successful startup before, because otherwise I could never give myself and my children the freedom that I consider to be necessary to make a life worth living.

hyphyphyph 13y ago
Good luck homy.
pmelendez 13y ago
>"That's not what he's comparing himself to, he's not comparing himself to people with sick parents, disabilities or a family to take care of. He's comparing himself to young and educated indulging the life of well-earning bachelors buying shit they don't need." I am not sure about that, he explicitly said that he is not interested in starting a family. From the article: "I could have saved a bit less, and developed a taste for expensive shirts or exotic foreign holidays. Or I could have started a family. But I’m not interested in any of those things"

Tyrannosaurs 13y ago

I can testify that unless you get off on sleep deprivation and clearing up other people's bodily waste there's little short term gratification in a family.

hyphyphyph 13y ago

OMG intercourse and parental approval all in one???