Off hand, It sounds like your project manager was talking without really thinking about it. These expectations sound kinda unprofessional. It's his job as a pro

Off hand, It sounds like your project manager was talking without really thinking about it. These expectations sound kinda unprofessional. It's his job as a product manager to motivate you, but that doesn't mean he knows how to actually do that. Personally I think being 100% into your job indicates a lack of a healthy balance. It's called overtime for a reason, and repeated studies have shown that a 40 hour work week is optimal, and that hours above that may create a temporary increase in productivity, but a long term decrease if maintained. I'd broach the topic with a friendly coworker and get a read on the situation, and use that in your dealing with your product manager. I'd take a look at Andrew Carnegie's how to make friends and influence people. It's a bit dated, but an easy read that will give you some suggestions as to how to think about dealing with your manager. You need to figure out, why is your project manager saying these things? What are his/her ultimate goals, beyond the intermediate things you mentioned? What does he/she value, as a person? Maybe he's/she's saying these things because he/she wants to feel useful. Maybe he/she is under pressure from his boss to improve productivity, and he/she is going about it in a backwards way. Maybe they are squeezing you because your new, and they thinks they can get more out of you. Ultimately, you may have to figure out if you want to take on additional responsibilities, and if so, what do you feel is fair compensation for such efforts, and if not, how to deal with these suggestions. But if you have an issue with them, it's better to say something sooner rather than later. My guess is that this person has no idea that you are this bothered by what he/she said, and that you feel disrespected. They may not care or may take offense if you approach the issue in those terms, hence the Carnegie book, so you can use what they actually care about to get them to see where you are coming from and try to resolve things in a mutually satisfactory manner.