I'm not suggesting self-flagellation and I'm not suggesting everything is "all better now". I'm aware that there is a great disparity. Like I mentioned before,

I'm not suggesting self-flagellation and I'm not suggesting everything is "all better now". I'm aware that there is a great disparity. Like I mentioned before, all of my questions were completely serious and not meant to demonstrate a point -- I really want to know what the answer(s) are / could be. In short, I'm saying "Help me understand what the right thing to do now. I can't undo history." I hear far too much debate about guilt assignment and not enough about practical advise.