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Don't care about virtual Karma. Really don't! It's addictive, can destroy your mood and affect your life. The same applies for "likes". See it as a kind of addi
by X4 13y ago
Don't care about virtual Karma. Really don't!
It's addictive, can destroy your mood and affect your life.
The same applies for "likes". See it as a kind of addiction, a sickness, something that is manipulative and ill-fated.
I don't say anything about your comments, your style, or your person! I'll let others do help you with that, because I'm not qualified for that.
Life is about making the life of other people better. Your life only becomes better this way. Well, you might think about Oil barons, Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, PRISM etc., but the reality is that whatever they do makes someone's life better and people pay for it and in return their own life becomes better too.
One has to accept that even a million likes or karma points have a low potential of changing your life to the better. Many reading this will think that having million karma points will make you popular and that this has only upsides, but they aren't right.
If you "create" something instead of becoming popular for what you think, hate, like, adore etc. then you really make a difference in your life and especially in the life of other people.
We're speaking about a developer/manager career, no a political career, keep that in mind. (As a politician for example you're allowed to be a hypocrite as long as you can defend yourself with arguments.)
And if you notice that the time you invest in formulating arguments isn't respected, you're practically argueing in the wrong channel, with the wrong people or about the wrong topic.
- websitescenes 13y agoThanks, very sobering. I am struggling with this recently. I have been trying to make people like me online and its been a losing battle. I believe you are correct about your suggestions. I am going to abandon my quest for recognition and do things help people instead. That is such a better use of time, yet it never occurred to me as plainly as you put it. Thank you
- kls 13y agoYou can't make people like you, but you can be a likeable person, the way that you do that is to serve people. Help them better themselves and in the process you better yourself. You learn valuable skills like patients and empathy both go a long way and people see them in your actions. When people know you are a genuinely good person not acting in self interests they are more likely to genuinely like you both on and off line. The original poster is right, the quest for karma or any other recognition is a self serving quest, the fruits of which are always tasteless and unrewarding because they are a quest for acceptance hidden behind a trinket. Once you receive the trinket the acceptance for that act is gone and you are left in the same state you where before that. It's akin to a drug and it can become addictive, because it is not permanent, the high of momentary acceptance fades and you are back on the treadmill. Now if you contrast this with genuinely improving someone's life then every time you see the person you have helped in a better state you see the trophies of your accomplishments and is far more rewarding.
- websitescenes 13y agoSpot on again! You guys are painting a real nice picture. I am definitely abandoning karma as a self worth indicator. I already kicked drugs and I don't want to start again.
- X4 13y agoJust in case it's not clear enough, @kls doesn't mean attributing one's life to someone else or someone specific, it can easily be mistaken for that. There would be enough people who'd love to profit from such naivety in that matter.
- kls 13y agoAbsolutely I am not suggesting being a door mat to people who would look to exploit you, or putting all your self worth into something external, helping to improve others is an internal quest, to perfect oneself. That being said, being kind to others and generous to others and the ones that reciprocate are people you want to help because they are the type of people that view the world as water lifts all boats and do not have the mentality of someone has to loose for them to win.