People change their lives every day. I think that when you over think it and look for large scale changes instantly, that is when you run into the challenges yo

People change their lives every day. I think that when you over think it and look for large scale changes instantly, that is when you run into the challenges you are describing. I don't know what type of change you are looking for, do you want a new career? a change of health habits? I like to think I've 'changed' many times. But if I look back and ask if I'm a changed person? No, I'm not. I'm the present extension of the person I was in the past. Different in what I've changed, but still in many ways the same. If you want to make large scale changes, start with a few small things that you can keep up for an extended period of time. Keep doing them, then add more. I think maybe staying away from the books that promise massive changes may be a good idea. Also, though you will want to measure your progress, be very concious of how you do that. Constantly asking if you're happy can lead to not being happy, because you're always looking for this happiness. Look at how Alcoholics Anonymous manages their people. The 12 steps has been used to help many different types of addicts and people to change their lives. I think it doesn't have to be only used to prevent negative behaviours, I'm sure it is just as valuable to instilling positive behaviours. Best of luck, and I hope this helps.