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>Who's to say that an "early" death is not in fact a gift for the living? Everyone who's experienced it?

• wpietri 13y ago
  Not everyone. My mother's death was in many ways her last gift to me. I would not have traded her for what I have gained. But neither would I erase the experience of loss, as painful and traumatic as it was. I am a much better person, a much stronger person, a much more compassionate person.
  • passwdispasswd 13y ago
    No harm meant but your post just sounds like a coping mechanism.
    • wpietri 13y ago
      I could see why you'd think that, but I'm pretty sure it's not. Nothing is purely negative, and I think it's important to keep that in mind. Especially when one's attitude and reactions can amplify or diminish the good parts. If you want to look for coping mechanisms in this discussion, consider all the denial around the inevitability of death.
  • philh 13y ago
    > I would not have traded her for what I have gained. It sounds like you and bcgraham are in agreement, just meaning different things by the word "gift".