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My mother lives in Germany, and has done the couchsurfing thing a few times. After being a guest, she decided she should reciprocate and opened her couch up to
by jscheel 13y ago
My mother lives in Germany, and has done the couchsurfing thing a few times. After being a guest, she decided she should reciprocate and opened her couch up to others. She had some good experiences, first, but the last guy that contacted her really skeeved her out. She said something just didn't seem right in his communication with her, so she cancelled a few weeks before he was supposed to come. She had some experiences earlier in her life that have made her hyper aware of small indicators that signal danger. Fast forward a few months later, and the BKA (Federal Criminal Police Office) showed up at her door asking about the guy. He was a serial rapist, who used online sites to find his victims. They had, thankfully, captured him and wanted all of her email correspondence for their prosecution. No more couchsurfing for her.
- loceng 13y agoThis just highlights the importance of reporting incidents immediately, and not just to the police of course - though I imagine / hope they warn and notify the proper channels.
- flyinRyan 13y agoWhat incident should she have reported? The guy was strange? It was something in this anecdote but he could just been awkward. Your response is especially bizarre given that this attitude is exactly what led to the NSA scandal we're seeing now.
- loceng 13y agoI was referring to if someone comes to your place and assaults you, or things go missing, etc..
- alex_c 13y agoIt's tough to report "something didn't feel right" as an incident, though...
- loceng 13y agoI was referring to if someone comes to your place and assaults you, or things go missing, etc..
- WA 13y agoWhy doesn't she simply continue to host only women?
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- DannyBee 13y agoYou think women can't be serial rapists/murderers/whatever?
- sopooneo 13y agoThey can. But the odds are vastly, provably, lower.
- DannyBee 13y agoI'm sorry, what are you basing this on? Provably? In what sense? Given how underreported rape is in all cases, i'm curious what conclusions you think can be proved. Looking at a bunch of journal studies from the past 10 years: Rape by males of females is underreported by 50-90%, depending on who you believe Rape by males of males is underreported by 95-99%, depending on who you believe Rape by females of females is underreported by 95-99% depending on who you believe Rape by females of males is underreported by 95-99% depending on who you believe. I'm only suggesting your statement that the odds are provably lower, is false, because i don't think you have enough reliable data to prove anything. It may in fact, be that rape by females is lower, but i have a lot of trouble seeing that we have enough statistical data to prove it.
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- jamespo 13y agoSome statistics would help here, and ones without source are as useful as none at all.
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