I think that the "sexual preference is not a choice" argument should be used together hand-in-hand with the "AND it should not matter if it's a choice" argument

I think that the "sexual preference is not a choice" argument should be used together hand-in-hand with the "AND it should not matter if it's a choice" argument. The fact of the matter is that homophobes are wrong on both levels, and they have to win BOTH arguments to justify their positions. May homophobes strongly believe "sexual preference is a choice" because they have first hand daily experience with choosing not to act on their own self-loathing repressed homosexual urges, so there is no way you can convince them otherwise, because they are extremely invested in homosexuality being a choice, otherwise they must confront their own homosexual tendencies. The argument that it should not matter if it's a choice or not should appeal to any true conservatives or libertarians who truly believe in freedom and don't think the government should be legislating personal choice. But those people are extremely rare, just like true Christians who have actually read the bible and believe what it says, instead of cherry picking the convenient parts and characterizing what they learned by going to Sunday School and watching animated christmas specials, and know what the dogma of their religious institutions actually dictates that they should believe. For example, many "true" Catholics will patronizingly explain to you that the idea of eating Christ's flesh and drinking his blood is only a metaphor, when it most certainly is NOT: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transsubstantiation http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transsubstantiation The "it should not matter if sexual preference is a choice" argument allows you to question if they are a true conservative / libertarian or not, in a way that you can't get through to repressed self loathing repressed homosexuals with the "homosexuality is a choice" argument. Of course anyone who thinks they're an expert in the answer to the question of whether or not sexual preference is a choice, whose own personal opinion overrides the scientific consensus, is obviously speaking from the personal experience of choosing to suppress and not act on their own homosexual feelings, so there is no way to get through to them with that logical argument. That's why it's important to use both approaches together.