I'm in the same boat as you, but I think another relevant question is what fraction on people actually agonize over such things like us? what fraction doesn't c

I'm in the same boat as you, but I think another relevant question is what fraction on people actually agonize over such things like us? what fraction doesn't care? then in addition, we'd have to consider whether having items chosen for you as opposed to chosen by you would engender more negative reactions buy the user (which I imagine ius the case since there's no more incentive to protect yourself vs purchase regret)