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One word: love

ars 13y ago
Just a little caution: If you are not going to stay with this child for life, then please be very careful of his emotions. Loss of attachment is really really really hard on children.
- jwdunne 13y ago
  I fully intend on being there for him for the rest of his life and me and his mother are deeply in love. We are hoping to get married some time next year :)
  - mst 13y ago
    I thought that once; then she and I broke up and I haven't seen the kid since (sadly). So it goes. I don't, honestly, think that possible outcome is something worth dewelling on; once you start feeling like a parent, the whole 'apply love' thing is entirely unavoidable. But please do remember that "I fully intend" may at some point make contact with a reality hostile to your intentions, and at least consider the possibility you may one day need a plan Z.
    - jwdunne 13y ago
      She is my childhood sweetheart and we have been through an awful lot together. She has stood by me in times when I didn't even care or stand by myself, when I felt disgusting and unloved (I suffer from a mood disorder which produced psychotic symptoms at its peak). She was there when even some family refused to be there. To be poetic, my love for her transcends that of anything I'be ever known or witnessed. It seems we are stronger than my parents and her parents and they have been together for around 20 - 25 years each. We are 100% dedicated to each other and the thought if not being with her makes me physically sick.
      - mst 13y ago
        It sounds like you have a significantly lower than average chance of needing a plan Z. That wasn't really my point. "Having an appropriate will" is another form of having a plan Z; reality is not fair, not kind, and not your friend. (trying to steer clear of doomsaying but there's an underlying "no matter how reliable your RAID array is an offsite backup is still a good idea" point I'm trying to make here :)
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ericssmith 13y ago
Sorry to sound cynical, but toddlers and pre-schoolers are easily the most confounding, frustrating creatures on the planet. They are experts at exposing your dark corners and jangling your nerves. You will not be feeling or thinking 'love' at that point. If you are looking for single word remedies, then 'tolerance', or 'patience' are closer to the mark.

One word: love

ars 13y ago

Just a little caution: If you are not going to stay with this child for life, then please be very careful of his emotions. Loss of attachment is really really really hard on children.

jwdunne 13y ago
I fully intend on being there for him for the rest of his life and me and his mother are deeply in love. We are hoping to get married some time next year :)
- mst 13y ago
  I thought that once; then she and I broke up and I haven't seen the kid since (sadly). So it goes. I don't, honestly, think that possible outcome is something worth dewelling on; once you start feeling like a parent, the whole 'apply love' thing is entirely unavoidable. But please do remember that "I fully intend" may at some point make contact with a reality hostile to your intentions, and at least consider the possibility you may one day need a plan Z.
  - jwdunne 13y ago
    She is my childhood sweetheart and we have been through an awful lot together. She has stood by me in times when I didn't even care or stand by myself, when I felt disgusting and unloved (I suffer from a mood disorder which produced psychotic symptoms at its peak). She was there when even some family refused to be there. To be poetic, my love for her transcends that of anything I'be ever known or witnessed. It seems we are stronger than my parents and her parents and they have been together for around 20 - 25 years each. We are 100% dedicated to each other and the thought if not being with her makes me physically sick.
    - mst 13y ago
      It sounds like you have a significantly lower than average chance of needing a plan Z. That wasn't really my point. "Having an appropriate will" is another form of having a plan Z; reality is not fair, not kind, and not your friend. (trying to steer clear of doomsaying but there's an underlying "no matter how reliable your RAID array is an offsite backup is still a good idea" point I'm trying to make here :)

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ericssmith 13y ago

Sorry to sound cynical, but toddlers and pre-schoolers are easily the most confounding, frustrating creatures on the planet. They are experts at exposing your dark corners and jangling your nerves. You will not be feeling or thinking 'love' at that point. If you are looking for single word remedies, then 'tolerance', or 'patience' are closer to the mark.