"Most people want to go on dates with people who are attractive, and self-improvement is often an anti-pattern for that." I don't see the contradiction. I'm fa

"Most people want to go on dates with people who are attractive, and self-improvement is often an anti-pattern for that." I don't see the contradiction. I'm fairly obsessed with self-improvement and my body and health are a big part of that. I'm certainly more attractive now than I was 5 years ago, for example.