I don't quite see the trap: if you want to leave, why don't you leave? Seems there are plenty of opportunities out there. Having a raise is an incentive to sta

I don't quite see the trap: if you want to leave, why don't you leave? Seems there are plenty of opportunities out there. Having a raise is an incentive to stay, not an obligation. The question is, does your family really _need_ your current salary or is a lower salary + happy dad better for your family?