The way you act to others is not secondary. It really does matter that people exercise self-control and try to act humbly, since that's better to other people.

The way you act to others is not secondary. It really does matter that people exercise self-control and try to act humbly, since that's better to other people. A 'genuine' dick is a dick and not somehow better than someone who is acting like a human through effort. You may be perfectly clean of inner garbage, and a genuine be-er rather than an imitative do-er. Or since you are almost bragging about this to others who you think to instruct, you may have succumbed to pride just as much as someone who feels good about being humble. It's another layer of the same thing.