> you'll find there are a lot of girls who spent their 20s getting their careers in order and amassing life experience yeah, in other words, they spent their b

> you'll find there are a lot of girls who spent their 20s getting their careers in order and amassing life experience yeah, in other words, they spent their best years on someone else (probably LOTS of someone elses), and now that they're hitting the limits of what their youth/sex appeal can get them, they want some guy with a paycheck who they can slowly mold into a schlub, only to divorce him later. if you read your post carefully you say the exact same thing, just in 3 or 4 different ways. if you want to land a good relationship you HAVE to expose yourself to women at an early age and actively work on attraction/improving yourself, or else you're going to be the fucking sucker who picks up the tab later on in life. the illusion of dating being "better" in your 30s is simply women with fewer and fewer choices settling for less favorable selections, which is a recipe for disaster. the problem is so many guys, especially in IT, are completely CLUELESS to this dynamic and just go all-in the first time a reasonably pretty woman 'chooses' them. if she wouldn't have dated/slept with the you in your 20s, you sure as HELL don't want to get involved with her when you're in your 30s.