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The social life that comes with a typical office job is a false security. Your boss can take it away at any time. Never get so beholden to one person. You need

The social life that comes with a typical office job is a false security. Your boss can take it away at any time. Never get so beholden to one person. You need to start going to Meetups, hanging out with different sorts of people, etc. After you leave, you're lucky if you're in touch with one or two of your former co-workers. If your boss is sour about you leaving, or if he fires you in a piss-fit, he'll actually turn a lot of people against you. It sounds like you're already coming to the right path. Generating a social life without an office context is harder, but it's a valuable skill because almost everyone successful has active out-of-office ties.

philbarr 13y ago
I think this depends purely on the type of people who work at your job. I now work at home and have done for 2 years, but still meet up with colleagues from my previous job occasionally, and they still talk to me and we discuss life/software/beer etc. The company I work for now has meetups 2-3 times a year, and whilst the people are generally nice enough, I wouldn't really consider keeping in touch if I left. I doubt they would bother either. I also have a group of friends from my childhood around and we hang out alot. I consider this extremely important and make specific efforts to organise activities and nights out so we don't lose touch. People really don't put enough effort into friendships to stay in touch. They often treat friends as disposable when it comes to their careers which is sad. Friends > cash, every time.
benatkin 13y ago
I know this feeling, and I know it well. I agree with philbarr that it depends on your job. I think it also depends on your position in the social structure. But it's just another way that a job may seem better at the time than it actually is. I try to be skeptical of the perks of what I do, and put the main things (pay, gaining experience, commute time, comfort, etc) first.

philbarr 13y ago

I think this depends purely on the type of people who work at your job. I now work at home and have done for 2 years, but still meet up with colleagues from my previous job occasionally, and they still talk to me and we discuss life/software/beer etc. The company I work for now has meetups 2-3 times a year, and whilst the people are generally nice enough, I wouldn't really consider keeping in touch if I left. I doubt they would bother either. I also have a group of friends from my childhood around and we hang out alot. I consider this extremely important and make specific efforts to organise activities and nights out so we don't lose touch. People really don't put enough effort into friendships to stay in touch. They often treat friends as disposable when it comes to their careers which is sad. Friends > cash, every time.

benatkin 13y ago

I know this feeling, and I know it well. I agree with philbarr that it depends on your job. I think it also depends on your position in the social structure. But it's just another way that a job may seem better at the time than it actually is. I try to be skeptical of the perks of what I do, and put the main things (pay, gaining experience, commute time, comfort, etc) first.