If you are talented, you just need to keep asking, "What's the worst thing that could happen?" Find a gym near the office, and get into a routine where you can

If you are talented, you just need to keep asking, "What's the worst thing that could happen?" Find a gym near the office, and get into a routine where you can go, workout, shower, and be back at the office in 70 minutes. Do it 3 times a week. What's the worst thing that could happen? If they dislike what you're doing, you'll hear about it before they fire you. Then you start looking. Same thing with dating. Leave work at 7 for the date. What's the worst thing that will happen? That said, you have to be good. People won't rock the boat with talented employees. If you're not good, it's tougher. And yes, people use online dating too.