4 ms·

Weird, I have the complete opposite: I have a slight feeling of distrust when somebody gives me a weak hand.

looki 13y ago
I know this guy who won't even attempt to participate in the procedure. He just gives you his hand. It's like he just inserts his flat hand into yours and removes it once you let go. No shake either.
bcgraham 13y ago
Ditto. And I squeeze the hell out of their hand to relate reliability and engagement. If I shake someone's hand and they give me a weak handshake, I see it as, above all, not being engaged. I feel like it leaves emotional distance.
CognitiveLens 13y ago
I've always wondered what happens when two people meet who literally don't flex any muscle in their hand while shaking... must be some kind of strange hand mashing. I grip with what I hope is a sincere level of firmness - as in, "I'm really pleased to be shaking your hand, thank you" - and I'm flummoxed when it feels as though the other person has simply dangled their appendage for me to interact with.
- jedberg 13y ago
  > and I'm flummoxed when it feels as though the other person has simply dangled their appendage for me to interact with. This was a wonderful turn of phrase. It should be in some sales manual or something.
  - mst 13y ago
    That or a list of unintentional double entendres.
jrmoreau 13y ago
Same here, mushy handshakes make me feel uneasy. I never, ever initiate hugs at work either. If someone else wants to, I'll go in, but I just don't.
DanBC 13y ago
I know someone with Asperger's who cannot shake hands - he keeps his hand stiff but flat, and kind of slaps it against yours while your arms move up and down. It's odd. I also know other people with very limp handshakes. I don't mistrust them, but I do think it's weird. But what I hate are the ALPHA handshakes. Not just firm, but too much squeezing, and trying to turn so their hand is on top. It's calculating and manipulative and just weird. I never know whether to just let them do it; or to let them do it and then turn it when they're lulled into a false sense of security; or whether my entire handshake with them should be a battle of twisting and turning.

looki 13y ago

I know this guy who won't even attempt to participate in the procedure. He just gives you his hand. It's like he just inserts his flat hand into yours and removes it once you let go. No shake either.

bcgraham 13y ago

Ditto. And I squeeze the hell out of their hand to relate reliability and engagement. If I shake someone's hand and they give me a weak handshake, I see it as, above all, not being engaged. I feel like it leaves emotional distance.

CognitiveLens 13y ago

I've always wondered what happens when two people meet who literally don't flex any muscle in their hand while shaking... must be some kind of strange hand mashing. I grip with what I hope is a sincere level of firmness - as in, "I'm really pleased to be shaking your hand, thank you" - and I'm flummoxed when it feels as though the other person has simply dangled their appendage for me to interact with.

jedberg 13y ago
> and I'm flummoxed when it feels as though the other person has simply dangled their appendage for me to interact with. This was a wonderful turn of phrase. It should be in some sales manual or something.
- mst 13y ago
  That or a list of unintentional double entendres.

jrmoreau 13y ago

Same here, mushy handshakes make me feel uneasy. I never, ever initiate hugs at work either. If someone else wants to, I'll go in, but I just don't.

DanBC 13y ago

I know someone with Asperger's who cannot shake hands - he keeps his hand stiff but flat, and kind of slaps it against yours while your arms move up and down. It's odd. I also know other people with very limp handshakes. I don't mistrust them, but I do think it's weird. But what I hate are the ALPHA handshakes. Not just firm, but too much squeezing, and trying to turn so their hand is on top. It's calculating and manipulative and just weird. I never know whether to just let them do it; or to let them do it and then turn it when they're lulled into a false sense of security; or whether my entire handshake with them should be a battle of twisting and turning.