Online dating is a huge time sink though. You not only need to setup a profile, you have to actively find and message girls. The finding part is interesting bec

Online dating is a huge time sink though. You not only need to setup a profile, you have to actively find and message girls. The finding part is interesting because all dating sites lie to their users--80 years and 400 studies reliably show algorithms cannot predict romantic compatibility. I spent a good 6 months doing this, and the time I put into it wasn't justified. Maybe the joke was on me. I'm now happily dating a girl from an app I created because I was so frustrated with everything else out there. I don't think the girl is going to frame it the way you are thinking about it. She won't be thinking "he paid $50 so he could hang out with me," she's going to be thinking "I am looking for some sign of income/stability (check) and his time must be valuable because he isn't spending it courting girls online." I'm sure it's inevitable and certain types of girls may think about it the way you've described, but when you have identity tied to everything, you can eliminate those matches from the system. You never give or receive feedback on traditional dates, it's just a black box. It goes back to how well the matchmaker does and what the person is looking for. That's how the matchmaker is reviewed by the user.