I only have anecdotal evidence, but the whole "setting strict limits and boundaries" as some panacea to parenting seems wrong to me. I think bad results for "pe

I only have anecdotal evidence, but the whole "setting strict limits and boundaries" as some panacea to parenting seems wrong to me. I think bad results for "permissive" parents are more about parents who don't give a shit about their kids, dysfunctional homes. My parents were loving and kind but extremely permissive. Not once was I or my sister told to be home by a certain time, not to get drunk or do drugs or stay away from railroad tracks. They treated us with respect and gave us the chance to figure out what we should do. That's an extremely difficult thing for a parent to do, but they did so out of love, not negligence. The biggest problem was visiting friends' houses and be bossed around by their parents, with arbitrary and strict rules. Never enjoyed that very much.