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An incredibly masculine-focused article even if it made plenty of attempts to try to generalise across both the sexes. Being a smart woman gives you totally di
by jlees 18y ago
An incredibly masculine-focused article even if it made plenty of attempts to try to generalise across both the sexes.
Being a smart woman gives you totally different dating prospects than being a smart guy (and not just the obvious). Seriously.
It also gives you reasons to turn off the opposite sex that don't seem to be mentioned in the article - for example a lot of women play it dumb for fear of intimidating the guy they're flirting with. I've even caught myself doing it, which is saying a lot - I wear my IQ and education like a suit of armour most of the time.
- DanielBMarkham 18y agoI wear my IQ and education like a suit of armour most of the time It's interesting how smart people build up various defenses to keep people at bay -- including hyper-competitiveness. I remind my wife that you're supposed to let the boys win once in a while when we play cards, and we both get a laugh. She is merciless on my ego. But there's something to be said for fitting in, going with the flow, taking things as they happen. That's not to say to act dumb, just being in the moment at a rock concert probably isn't going to elicit Shakespearean quotes. There's a fine line between being smart and acting smart. Appearing smart is not necessarily a desirably externalized attribute in all social situations.
- _pius 18y agofor example a lot of women play it dumb for fear of intimidating the guy they're flirting with Ironically enough, this doesn't seem like a very intelligent strategy. I definitely get it, but it doesn't seem like a very wise approach in the long-term. What kind of partner would you end up with by hiding one of your most prized qualities?
- endtime 18y agoAgreed, though really this generalizes to "be yourself if you want to meet someone with whom to have a relationship."