As frustrating as it is, actor/observer asymmetry[1] is a reality and you can't simply say it's "unacceptable" unless you're willing to find a lot of people's n

As frustrating as it is, actor/observer asymmetry[1] is a reality and you can't simply say it's "unacceptable" unless you're willing to find a lot of people's normal behavior to be "unacceptable". It's a line that if you draw, it becomes hard to not appear dickish in normal situations. Because sadly, everyone abuses actor/observer bias. [1]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Actor%E2%80%93observer_asymmetry http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Actor%E2%80%93observer_asymmetr...