Being a developer gives you an endless source of learning, there's always something new to experiment with. For me that meant that in my late teens I was often

Being a developer gives you an endless source of learning, there's always something new to experiment with. For me that meant that in my late teens I was often messing about with code and reading books whilst my friends were calling saying they were bored, as a result they'd look to social interaction to solve their boredom, including going out to parties etc. I think that's the start of the divide. When you do eventually pop your head up from your laptop, your friends have all developed superior social skills than you, so you're instantly out of place and on the back foot in highly social situations such as parties and nights out. I recognise that I lack certain social skills required to flourish in big crowds and groups, but I think its just a matter of forcing myself to attend events, be more open with people and it'll improve. If you do something all the time, providing you're a good learner - it should get easier.