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I'm surprised there's no mention downsides to being an attractive man. I think they certainly exist, but perhaps the net is positive?
by incision 14y ago
I'm surprised there's no mention downsides to being an attractive man. I think they certainly exist, but perhaps the net is positive?
- seanalltogether 14y agoAs far as I'm aware being an attractive male doesn't hinder your chances in the STEM fields as it maybe would a female.
- trustfundbaby 14y agoI think it can work against you, people might not take you seriously as an engineer if you're too goodlooking or well built.
- Xcelerate 14y agoDon't know why you were downvoted. I've noticed this too. Someone who works out a lot (noticeably muscular) is stereotyped in academia or STEM professions.
- seestheday 14y agoI can understand there being an issue for being overly muscular, but I also don't think that being overly muscular equals being good looking. This is probably a very common mistake that men make when pursuing better looks.
- Xcelerate 14y ago> I also don't think that being overly muscular equals being good looking I know. I didn't imply that.
- seestheday 14y agoI'm a pretty good looking man by conventional standards. In my n=1 experience the benefits far outweigh any downside. I actually can't think about any downside. I know this sounds cocky, but I thought it might add to the discussion. Being good looking is fucking awesome. So is being smart. Both are a combination of genetics and hard work.
- moistgorilla 14y agoWhat downsides?
- cosx 14y agoYou might get deported like that Saudi guy for being too handsome. You can also be targeted by other men (of a different race for example) that feel threatened by you - or women too, the bitter type, in all seriousness. To make it easier for your probable world view: being a very good looking tall black man for example, won't necessarily have everyone open up to you with smiles on their faces (especially if you don't necessarily want to assimilate into their 'culture'/social structure). Being a very good looking asian (yes they exist, haha) guy myself - I would say I have experienced many instances in my life where white men have attempted to sabotage me. People like things that make them feel/seem more powerful, and hate things that tend to do the opposite.
- jiggy2011 14y agoAre you sure they attempted to sabotage you because they were threatened by your looks and not some other reason?
- cosx 14y agoNo guarantee's there, but I can say that it works both ways. Xenophobia and these sorts of biases exist and are normal parts of being a human being. I would say, it's better to accept that these biases exist, so that you can take them into account when reasoning - rather than trying to delude yourself into thinking you are in entire control of all that is going on in your mind (and body).
- jiggy2011 14y agoI mean, what caused you to believe they were sabotaging you based on looks? I'm sure there are all kinds of odd reasons why somebody might do that, but it seems like an odd one to assume unless there's a reason for it.
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- jiggy2011 14y agoYou might be able to overcome that by investing in some jam-jar glasses and a thinkgeek t shirt. Bonus points for food or armpit stains.
- Odin9 14y agoStraight porn. They don't want attractive men, it makes male viewers feel inadequate.
- jiggy2011 14y agoNot that I'm the best to judge, but male porn actors seem to be mostly in pretty good shape.
- beachstartup 14y agothese days they're all young and fit and well endowed. but the camera is never focused on them or their faces, like in the old days. the ron jeremy days are long gone.
- illuminate 14y agoHe was young and fit in the seventies. He's just stayed around in that business long after his expiration date.
- illuminate 14y agoIf that was the case, why wouldn't they all have micopenises?
- randomdata 14y agoI seem to recall that the original assumption in porn was that men would prefer unattractive men, but reality (as measured by sales) proved different.
- DenisM 14y agoGood looks during young age remove the incentive to communicate well, so when the looks inevitably expire one might end up not as well-adjusted as their average-looking peers.