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It sounds like a major source of tension is breast feeding. Have you looked into hiring a breast feeding coach? Another note is that babies in my experience a
by moocow01 13y ago
It sounds like a major source of tension is breast feeding. Have you looked into hiring a breast feeding coach?
Another note is that babies in my experience are oddly perceptive to the parents being stressed out or tense (not in any sort of damaging way). Try to do anything you guys possibly can to relax... massage, walks, whatever, etc etc and you may find she feeds better and is generally easier on you guys.
Lastly your situation is more common than unique. At the worst you'll muddle through it and look back and say thank god thats over. It feels like torture now but you guys will be fine - every couple Ive known in your situation goes through some form of this with a new child.
- codegeek 13y agoThe thing with breast feeding is that my wife is soon to go back to work and she will have to pump anyway. So she chose to pump from the beginning (for better or worse). I think I have to be more proactive to her needs and try and do some things differently.
- notdonspaulding 13y agoI understand the reasoning here, and the pump is a wonderful piece of technology to make use of, but there's still something very mechanical about pumping. If it's an option, your wife may find it more relaxing to try breastfeeding on occasion.
- codegeek 13y agototally agreed. she has actually started trying it lately but not 100%.
- Tyrant505 13y agoI don't understand choosing the pump from the beginning... People choose that as a solo option and not an additional means? Is it a nipple thing? | (sorry if too personal, just hacking) Isn't it natural comfort for a woman to breast feed? Brings the connection together? I do not know everything about brains and emotion bit it kind of makes sense, just like making love to her.
- brudgers 13y agoPumping is fine. Recognize that going to work can be a huge source of stress for Mom due to the degree to which staying at home is often promoted as an ideal for women. Men are not immune to this either, of course. Twelve years on, it remains a source of misgiving for my wife. But at least now it crosses my radar more frequently. Your wife is the primary caregiver. Be patient. Listen instead of trying to fix. Taking care of her is the hard role with which you have been tasked.