I appreciate your preference and wish I knew more people like you. On the other hand, I wish I could appreciate conversations the same way I appreciate playing

I appreciate your preference and wish I knew more people like you. On the other hand, I wish I could appreciate conversations the same way I appreciate playing sports, as an enjoyable activity that allows me to exercise some of my natural human capabilities. Unfortunately, I can't do it. I get bored if important things aren't discussed, and if important things are discussed, I get stressed out about the quality of the discussion. For some reason I feel like raucus, uninhibited arguments are incompatible with intelligence and a critical approach to life, even though I know that's wrong; I know that plenty of intelligent writers and thinkers have been known for their wit and their ability to hold their own in rowdy discussions. I think I've been programmed to believe in a false dichotomy between intelligent discussion and noisy manipulation.