Mileage varies. I was reasonably tuned to a lot of this stuff, and I was working 60-80 hour weeks. Part of it is just feeling that it is your responsibility t

Mileage varies. I was reasonably tuned to a lot of this stuff, and I was working 60-80 hour weeks. Part of it is just feeling that it is your responsibility to deal with this stuff. My wife was definitely _more_ aware, but I wasn't far behind. She could leave for a weekend and it wasn't a problem, I needed a rundown on where stuff was and schedule but I handled the kids just fine. Yes, I did sleep through more of their crying. But the time my daughter woke screaming from some nightmare, I was up the staircase before I woke up. Seriously, my first conscious memory was my foot pushing up a stair. My wife appeared three minutes later asking if the baby had cried. When the daughter wandered into the woods and lost herself I was looking for her five minutes before any one else noticed she was gone. Et cetera. Which isn't to knock what you are doing, just to say it isn't the only way.