Your statement reminds me of one of David Reynolds's concepts discussed in his book _Constructive Living_. Which was an interesting and quick read although som

Your statement reminds me of one of David Reynolds's concepts discussed in his book _Constructive Living_. Which was an interesting and quick read although somehow a bit unsatisfying. I've not thought about the "why" of that satisfaction point so I can't really recommend (or not) the book other than to say it's a quick read and has some redeeming qualities so it might be worth looking at. Anyway, the actual concept concerns a weakness with the English language that actually impacts the thinking of native English speakers. And I think your thinking is falling into that pattern. The issue is that English blurs the concept of feeling an emotion and the doing of an emotional action. And it's useful to NOT blur those concepts into one thing. Specifically because by doing-X you can actually bring about feeling-X inside yourself. English leads you to believe that your current feeling is somehow decoupled from your actions. When in reality you can actually control your feelings by taking actions. So for example in this case by genuinely doing-interest in someone (regardless of whether you feel-interest initially) you will find you actually soon enough feel-interest in them. You are a process not an entity and you can modify your own code.