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Does he realize you don't feel comfortable with those jokes? That sort of over-the-top overtly racist comment is hard for me to imagine being said genuinely, b

Does he realize you don't feel comfortable with those jokes? That sort of over-the-top overtly racist comment is hard for me to imagine being said genuinely, but my friends and I will make similarly appalling jokes directed at each other, where the humor derives directly from the absurdity and wrongness. Racism towards arabic, persian and 'middle eastern' people certainly exists in America and is a serious problem, I don't in any way doubt you have experienced discrimination. But calling a coworker "Car-bomb" as a nickname is so egregious that I just can't imagine it being said with malice, it seems like a "look how politically incorrect I can be" joke among friends. I don't know, I could be wrong, maybe my experiences and the people I've met aren't representative of other parts of the country.

MetaCosm 14y ago
... friends aren't co-workers. You choose your friends. You friends don't control your paycheck, nor can they fire you. It is a different dynamic, and for this to happen in a manager / direct report situation is insane. It is so insane that combined with the anon throwaway, I really wish there was some sort of verification.
DanBC 14y ago
> But calling a coworker "Car-bomb" as a nickname is so egregious that I just can't imagine it being said with malice, Calling a black coworker "nig-nog" as a nickname would be so egregious that I just couldn't imagine it being said with malice. I'd still be appalled if I ever heard it being said. Don't these people saying these things realise that they're leaving themselves wide open to legal liability?