I think your mistake is to suppose that we use the adjective 'barbaric' to somehow demean or dehumanize its practitioners. Ie - because they are black/brown/mus

I think your mistake is to suppose that we use the adjective 'barbaric' to somehow demean or dehumanize its practitioners. Ie - because they are black/brown/muslim that we allow ourselves to use this language. That's 100% wrong (and is well addressed in the OP). Barbaric refers to the act itself. If Hungarians or Swedes decide to chop their girls' labia off, I will call that barbaric. And if it offends someone - I don't give a flying fuck. Just like we do not care if slave-owners are offended because we consider their practice barbaric.