I would think "that was the wrong thing to say", no matter who said it, including myself. Naturally, I am and have been an asshole before so I know about these

I would think "that was the wrong thing to say", no matter who said it, including myself. Naturally, I am and have been an asshole before so I know about these things, but I learned that tact and working well with a team is more important than being right. There is stability in that knowledge. Creating drama and division definitely doesn't work for me. Too stressful. It may be generally more difficult for a woman to fit into an all-male group. I think women sometimes conflate normal team-work challenges with gender problems too though. It's easy to be blind to your own shortcomings and blame others. I think the only thing you can truly change is yourself and your own reactions to things. I find it easier than trying to change others which can be risky. In any case, the sales and business people regardless of gender, never listen to the technical people...so at the very least we all have something in common :)