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I'm going to play devil's advocate here and say that it's a good thing to be lonely. Some background: I'm fifteen years old, have but one friend, and never att

• argonaut 14y ago
  Not to be pedantic or anything, but I wouldn't necessarily expect a 15 year old to have had a girlfriend or have gone to parties in the past. But as you grow older, the desire to have a girlfriend only increases, it doesn't decrease. While it is good to be someone who doesn't mind loneliness (as I am), I long ago understood that human relationships are incredibly important and powerful. Opportunities present themselves to you through other people. The most enjoyable experiences in my life have involved other people. The ironic thing is that if you ever freelance - the epitome of not talking to other people (because you get to work from home all day), your "network" becomes even more important than ever, because that is how you get new work opportunities. And unless you want to be condemned to forever having to apply to jobs through an application process (hint: highest chances of getting rejected), social relationships matter. I cannot tell you how many times people remembered me and thought I was an interesting person (and the opportunities that presented themselves through these associations) simply because I come off as very articulate, opinionated, and curious. The mechanistic "trick" to doing that is to keep asking people questions and then run a "pattern matching" algorithm whereby you see if anything you know or any stories you know relate to their answer, and then you relay that back in your reply. Again, I don't want to be a downer, but as you grow older, social relationships only increase in importance. The ironic thing is that as its importance increases, the surface area of opportunities for new social relationships decreases.
• ZenJosh 14y ago
  As much as I respect your spirit, you are missing out on so much of the world. I was you once. I worked, alone, in my little bubble for four of my teenage years. It was great, I learned a large chunk of what makes me a good developer, but a lesson - there are times where productivity should be secondary. People are the spice of life, they color the world, they give it flavor and texture and reason. The right people make those crushing moments bearable, and gently mock you when you achieve greatness because they knew you when you were nothing more than a laptop and bundles wide-eyed optimism. There is nothing more liberating than the feeling of having someone know you, really know you, and know them back. It gives you this intuitive ability to look into them and know what they are thinking as if it were a sense, like touch or smell or taste. People hurt, they snarl and they wound, but the right people are so impossibly worth it. It's just a matter of finding the right people, and that's something a lifetime of happiness, pain, disappointment and kindness will give you. Don't change, but don't resign yourself to a life of solitude. I'm just a preachy comment on a preachy website you could click a little x on to close in a second, but try to embrace the silly things the world throws at you, set some time aside to stop working and just be. J