OP is trying to do her job, and prevent issues. They ignore her to the point where she has to do something extreme to pay attention, and then have the nerve to

OP is trying to do her job, and prevent issues. They ignore her to the point where she has to do something extreme to pay attention, and then have the nerve to be offended? Seriously, if you want your company to do well, you don't punish people who speak up to prevent problems. I don't care if it's discrimination, because of her gender, whatever. It's bad for the business. In general, discrimination is bad for business because it means people do things they shouldn't, like ignore engineers who know their shit, or take extra time to get a second opinion when the first was from a knowledgeable source. Discrimination costs your business money, and not because of some theoretical lawsuits. Now, sure people will get ignored when they shouldn't be. People will get second opinions for a variety of reasons when they don't need to. There is no perfect company. But we know logically, WE KNOW, that it's stupid to discount someone because of their gender. So while we may not be able to prevent all such screwups where smart people aren't heeded, here is an obvious case where this shit shouldn't happen. And that's the lesson to take away from this. Here is something that is fixable that hurts the business, leads to pointless meetings and the cause is known. If it was an engineering problem in your stack, you'd be fixing it by now. This is probably going to get buried, sadly. Maybe it deserves it's own post.