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Wow, it's like everything that I used to fear about the dating world put into one shiny app. Had this been out years ago when I was single, it would've definite

by chime 14y ago

Wow, it's like everything that I used to fear about the dating world put into one shiny app. Had this been out years ago when I was single, it would've definitely given me a lot of anxiety. Having been happily married for 5 years, all I can say to single folks is that if someone actively rates people on apps/sites like this, they are most likely not the kind of people you want to be with in the long run. As for the startup/app itself, it's the natural evolution of taking HotOrNot ratings + OKCupid profiles + Fuckedcompany gossip and building it into a neat package. There is certainly a demand for apps like this in the market but if you're a user, try to be nice even if you don't like someone. People can become really mean when anonymous.

drharris 14y ago
Indeed. This would become the first question I asked a woman when trying to date. If she's childish enough to use something like this, I'd have no problem saying sayonara. There should be some expectation of maturity and general couth in any relationship.
- paranoiacblack 14y ago
  Indeed. If you decide to stop dating someone because of an application on their phone, you are the mature one and they are the child.
  - john_b 14y ago
    His point was that it's indicative of a childish and immature mentality, which is a judgment of a person, not a judgement of their phone.
  - drharris 14y ago
    Yes, it does. I have standards for the people I choose to involve myself with. In a similar vein, I would likely not even befriend anyone that uses it, or anyone that supports this type of application (either directed towards men or women). A big part of maturity is having personal integrity in all dealings. This means, for me, an automatic rejection of anyone who would use something like this. Similarly, I do not befriend constant gossips or complainers, and call my friends out when they do it. Certain people are a waste of relationship effort.
- loceng 14y ago
  Ask them if they use it?
drzaiusapelord 14y ago
Not to mention, female privilege lets them call men "creepers" or "perverts" without question. I've pressed female friends about this and they just answer with "I didnt like the look he gave me" or "we just didnt click." So instead of understanding that most people are not compatible, we're now building a db to slander them based on purely emotional reasoning? If women are using this then it says a lot about the woman. I imagine the women drawn to this are difficult anyway. This problem kind of solves itself. I doubt this app can help them and its a symptom of a very negative attitude toward dating and, frankly, socially acceptable misandry.
- TazeTSchnitzel 14y ago
  It's like a bait for the bad ones. Now, if only you could find out which people you knew used the app...
  - largesse 14y ago
    There could be an app for that.
- erikpukinskis 14y ago
  Until we, as a society, can stop blaming women for their rapes (she was so sloshed, what did she think would happen when she got into bed with him?) women are going to be EXTREMELY conservative about these kinds of things. When it's your fault if he rapes you, you put "creepy" on a hair trigger.
  - newnewnew 14y ago
    so now a socially awkward attempt to start a conversation with a woman means you're a rapist...
    - antimagic 14y ago
      No, not what the GP said. Simply put, women are overly cautious when evaluating men because they know that they are not very well protected by the law (in as much as the threat of punishment acts as a deterrent, an idea for which the jury is still out) when it comes to rape, so they have to protect themselves by using any little indicator to hint that they are in the presence of a pervert. This is not particularly fair to most men, but I don't know that asking women to assume more risk so that you have an easier time getting laid is very fair either. Just in case you are unaware of this, most women I know and have discussed this with agree that social awkwardness in men is often correlated with inappropriate sexual behaviour, so yes, if you make an awkward attempt at conversation, you are probably going to get negatively labelled. May I suggest working on your social skills if this bothers you?
gavanwoolery 14y ago
I don't really have much to hide in terms of being a "bad" guy, but I will openly admit I have several minor forms of neurosis. I could see several guys being needlessly embarrassed by an app like this. What I choose to share on the interent is one thing, what others choose to share is a bit different.
NathanKP 14y ago
Exactly. As offensive, shallow, and demeaning as Lulu might be it really isn't anything new. Trashy people of both sexes have used Facebook for gossipy purposes such as this for years. By now we should all have learned how to prune our relationship tree and unfriend, avoid, and block people who do this sort of thing. Anyone who would use a site like Lulu is not worthy to be a friend, much less a significant other.
trvlngwlbry 14y ago
To add to the anxiety that some men are probably feeling about this app, Lulu obnoxiously uses a homepage photo in which the women look like they're acting at best mischievous and at worst downright evil. Personally, the app does not cause me any anxiety, but I can tell from the comments that for some it does, and the homepage photo choice is a blatantly unapologetic statement about how Lulu hopes the app is used. The photo choice on the homepage does not mesh well with the text in the About page.

by chime 14y ago

drharris 14y ago

Indeed. This would become the first question I asked a woman when trying to date. If she's childish enough to use something like this, I'd have no problem saying sayonara. There should be some expectation of maturity and general couth in any relationship.

paranoiacblack 14y ago
Indeed. If you decide to stop dating someone because of an application on their phone, you are the mature one and they are the child.
- john_b 14y ago
  His point was that it's indicative of a childish and immature mentality, which is a judgment of a person, not a judgement of their phone.
- drharris 14y ago
  Yes, it does. I have standards for the people I choose to involve myself with. In a similar vein, I would likely not even befriend anyone that uses it, or anyone that supports this type of application (either directed towards men or women). A big part of maturity is having personal integrity in all dealings. This means, for me, an automatic rejection of anyone who would use something like this. Similarly, I do not befriend constant gossips or complainers, and call my friends out when they do it. Certain people are a waste of relationship effort.
loceng 14y ago
Ask them if they use it?

drzaiusapelord 14y ago

Not to mention, female privilege lets them call men "creepers" or "perverts" without question. I've pressed female friends about this and they just answer with "I didnt like the look he gave me" or "we just didnt click." So instead of understanding that most people are not compatible, we're now building a db to slander them based on purely emotional reasoning? If women are using this then it says a lot about the woman. I imagine the women drawn to this are difficult anyway. This problem kind of solves itself. I doubt this app can help them and its a symptom of a very negative attitude toward dating and, frankly, socially acceptable misandry.

TazeTSchnitzel 14y ago
It's like a bait for the bad ones. Now, if only you could find out which people you knew used the app...
- largesse 14y ago
  There could be an app for that.
erikpukinskis 14y ago
Until we, as a society, can stop blaming women for their rapes (she was so sloshed, what did she think would happen when she got into bed with him?) women are going to be EXTREMELY conservative about these kinds of things. When it's your fault if he rapes you, you put "creepy" on a hair trigger.
- newnewnew 14y ago
  so now a socially awkward attempt to start a conversation with a woman means you're a rapist...
  - antimagic 14y ago
    No, not what the GP said. Simply put, women are overly cautious when evaluating men because they know that they are not very well protected by the law (in as much as the threat of punishment acts as a deterrent, an idea for which the jury is still out) when it comes to rape, so they have to protect themselves by using any little indicator to hint that they are in the presence of a pervert. This is not particularly fair to most men, but I don't know that asking women to assume more risk so that you have an easier time getting laid is very fair either. Just in case you are unaware of this, most women I know and have discussed this with agree that social awkwardness in men is often correlated with inappropriate sexual behaviour, so yes, if you make an awkward attempt at conversation, you are probably going to get negatively labelled. May I suggest working on your social skills if this bothers you?

gavanwoolery 14y ago

I don't really have much to hide in terms of being a "bad" guy, but I will openly admit I have several minor forms of neurosis. I could see several guys being needlessly embarrassed by an app like this. What I choose to share on the interent is one thing, what others choose to share is a bit different.

NathanKP 14y ago

Exactly. As offensive, shallow, and demeaning as Lulu might be it really isn't anything new. Trashy people of both sexes have used Facebook for gossipy purposes such as this for years. By now we should all have learned how to prune our relationship tree and unfriend, avoid, and block people who do this sort of thing. Anyone who would use a site like Lulu is not worthy to be a friend, much less a significant other.

trvlngwlbry 14y ago

To add to the anxiety that some men are probably feeling about this app, Lulu obnoxiously uses a homepage photo in which the women look like they're acting at best mischievous and at worst downright evil. Personally, the app does not cause me any anxiety, but I can tell from the comments that for some it does, and the homepage photo choice is a blatantly unapologetic statement about how Lulu hopes the app is used. The photo choice on the homepage does not mesh well with the text in the About page.