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>I like socializing, hanging out with friends, and going to parties, but they make me feel tired and I need time alone to "recharge" afterward. It's especially

by ukapu 13y ago

>I like socializing, hanging out with friends, and going to parties, but they make me feel tired and I need time alone to "recharge" afterward. It's especially draining to meet new people. This sounds like a Forer statement to me, to be honest. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forer_effect http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forer_effect) Just about everyone needs time to relax by themselves sometimes. Wanting to be left alone once in a while doesn't make you an introvert.

barbs 13y ago
> Just about everyone needs time to relax by themselves sometimes. Wanting to be left alone once in a while doesn't make you an introvert. I think it's more of a spectrum than a binary thing. I agree, everyone needs to be alone sometimes, but I guess it differs on how much time they need to relax by themselves, and how much or how often they want to be left alone.
- ukapu 13y ago
  You're right, it's definitely a spectrum. But I guess just generally speaking I find the whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy to be massively overblown.
InclinedPlane 13y ago
I think this is one of those cases where unless you personally know a lot of people who fall on different places on the scale and perhaps if you personally don't sit at one of the extremes then it can be harder to believe. While this sort of grouping is certainly a huge oversimplification it does hold a great deal of truth in my experience and observation. I personally am naturally introverted and the whole "alone time to recharge" thing has always been true for me. Even if I'm having the time of my life hanging out with my close friends it's still the case that once I get back home I will typically crave alone time, often even in preference to sleep even if it's super late at night. I also used to have a roommate who was a pretty classic extrovert and his behavior fit into the "recharge by interacting with people" model perfectly. There's certainly a lot more complexity to social interaction than just introversion and extroversion but to a first order approximation it is astoundingly accurate.

by ukapu 13y ago

barbs 13y ago

> Just about everyone needs time to relax by themselves sometimes. Wanting to be left alone once in a while doesn't make you an introvert. I think it's more of a spectrum than a binary thing. I agree, everyone needs to be alone sometimes, but I guess it differs on how much time they need to relax by themselves, and how much or how often they want to be left alone.

ukapu 13y ago
You're right, it's definitely a spectrum. But I guess just generally speaking I find the whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy to be massively overblown.

InclinedPlane 13y ago

I think this is one of those cases where unless you personally know a lot of people who fall on different places on the scale and perhaps if you personally don't sit at one of the extremes then it can be harder to believe. While this sort of grouping is certainly a huge oversimplification it does hold a great deal of truth in my experience and observation. I personally am naturally introverted and the whole "alone time to recharge" thing has always been true for me. Even if I'm having the time of my life hanging out with my close friends it's still the case that once I get back home I will typically crave alone time, often even in preference to sleep even if it's super late at night. I also used to have a roommate who was a pretty classic extrovert and his behavior fit into the "recharge by interacting with people" model perfectly. There's certainly a lot more complexity to social interaction than just introversion and extroversion but to a first order approximation it is astoundingly accurate.