1st, I'm sorry. Divorce is tough. Not easy, not clear cut and can drag on for a long time. My best advice is to get a lawyer. It will cost you but in the long

1st, I'm sorry. Divorce is tough. Not easy, not clear cut and can drag on for a long time. My best advice is to get a lawyer. It will cost you but in the long run it will save you way more when it comes to issues that MUST be dealt with. Child support, dividing possessions, etc. Second, let things roll of your back a bit. You are not in any trouble. You aren't a murderer facing a life sentence in prison. Take words from her and her attorney with a bit of a grain of salt. Acting agressive or like an asshole could be a detriment if they bring it up in front of a judge. Third, have fun with your son, enjoy him. Start demonstrating that you are a good dad and you can provide a safe, stable home for him. Fourth, stay away from having girls over and around your son for now (since you said you make decisions with the wrong part of your anatomy) until your divorce is final or legally separated. Lawyers will prey on that like a thanksgiving feast. Dont give them a reason to think that you never had your wifes interests in mind and now that she is gone you are going to bone whomever shows interest. Fifth, talk to people that you know were divorced and see how the dealt things. Lastly, been here my friend. Mine was messy and I didn't always restrain with my words as I should have. it cost me for a few years until I wised up and petitioned the court for changes. E-Mail is in my profile if you want to talk more. Good Luck. Stay relaxed.