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> One replied, and was very thankful for the feedback and promised to work on it. He replied a few months later thanking me again. Two didn't reply, which means

> One replied, and was very thankful for the feedback and promised to work on it. He replied a few months later thanking me again. Two didn't reply, which means my hour was not only wasted, but I actually sent feedback that they didn't want or appreciate (which means they now think I'm an asshole). I completely disagree. You're assuming that lack of reply = ungrateful and now they hate you, which is a completely ridiculous assumption. If someone rejects me and sends me feedback, I appreciate that but I'm not going to bother sending them an email thanking them - because there is really nothing more to discuss. What's next? Should I expect you to thank me for thanking you (does not thanking me for thanking you make me think you're an asshole?)

pbiggar 14y ago
Your use of the word "bother" is curious: a two line email is too much? But to answer your question, rejections are often met with a short note saying "thanks for the time", wishing us well, and hoping we meet again in the future.
- argonaut 14y ago
  Your question is irrelevant to my main point: that you're making a huge, unwarranted assumption that people who don't reply are necessarily ungrateful. As someone who has rejected people in the past and has told people why they were rejected, I have never expected nor felt in any way entitled to receive a response. I have told them why I have decided not to hire them. Some people thank me for the critique. Others do not. It doesn't matter and I certainly don't make the huge logical leap of assuming that those who don't reply dislike me personally.
  - pbiggar 14y ago
    I think you misunderstand. I am not assuming they are bad people who have bad opinions of me (obviously, I can't tell). Rather, I am taking a conservative position about whether I have offended them: I suspect I have, and its better not to do that.
iaw 14y ago
I think it's more a matter of the applicant recognizing that his criticisms were in a spirit of helping and responding with gratitude for the additional help. The difference between a two line rejection and a 3 paragraph well-thought critique is a good amount of time. If it isn't clear to me why I didn't obtain a position I ask for clarification (and reconsideration), usually the response I get is fairly good. As to pbiggar, I think he's shown a great deal more care and consideration to his applicants than most do, and I for one appreciate that (even if we've never corresponded).

pbiggar 14y ago

Your use of the word "bother" is curious: a two line email is too much? But to answer your question, rejections are often met with a short note saying "thanks for the time", wishing us well, and hoping we meet again in the future.

argonaut 14y ago
Your question is irrelevant to my main point: that you're making a huge, unwarranted assumption that people who don't reply are necessarily ungrateful. As someone who has rejected people in the past and has told people why they were rejected, I have never expected nor felt in any way entitled to receive a response. I have told them why I have decided not to hire them. Some people thank me for the critique. Others do not. It doesn't matter and I certainly don't make the huge logical leap of assuming that those who don't reply dislike me personally.
- pbiggar 14y ago
  I think you misunderstand. I am not assuming they are bad people who have bad opinions of me (obviously, I can't tell). Rather, I am taking a conservative position about whether I have offended them: I suspect I have, and its better not to do that.

iaw 14y ago

I think it's more a matter of the applicant recognizing that his criticisms were in a spirit of helping and responding with gratitude for the additional help. The difference between a two line rejection and a 3 paragraph well-thought critique is a good amount of time. If it isn't clear to me why I didn't obtain a position I ask for clarification (and reconsideration), usually the response I get is fairly good. As to pbiggar, I think he's shown a great deal more care and consideration to his applicants than most do, and I for one appreciate that (even if we've never corresponded).