I find that the current society (for the lack of a better name) have a HUGE problem with finding a partner (online or otherwise), as what we perceive as the "co

I find that the current society (for the lack of a better name) have a HUGE problem with finding a partner (online or otherwise), as what we perceive as the "common" ways are terrible. The "Hollywood myth" that we all have our soul mate is the one that gets into everywhere, but there are more. The idea that attraction is always at first sight, for example. That going to bars and huge parties is a good way of finding someone (they are highly inconvenient places to talk to strangers) The pressure that makes that a rejection is a tremendous deal. The whole male / female "expected behaviour". Tons of behaviour that can be misinterpreted as good or bad, for almost random reasons... From my point of view, is almost like if we don't want people to be engaged! I feel that, some time ago, there were channels where your family or others try to help in (or force) the process, including things like arranged marriages, balls or strong courtship rules... Of course, that's all extreme from our point of view, but right now we are basically getting a teenager influenced by tons of books, TV and movies that are not-exactly-telling-the-truth and creating unrealistic expectations, and push them out of the door, saying "there you go, go figure out for yourself!" I don't know what is the solution (if there is one), but right now the whole process of searching someone feels like extremely inefficient to me...