I got a message on okcupid once from a woman saying only "you're so attractive, why does your age filter include me?" One of my current partners is about the s

I got a message on okcupid once from a woman saying only "you're so attractive, why does your age filter include me?" One of my current partners is about the same age as her. The 'man should ideally be at least slightly older' norm is counterproductive and I hope one day it goes away. (I'm not saying there aren't underlying reasons why that norm often works ... just that I wish people would consider those underlying reasons and give up on age as a hard filter rather than a probability contributor)